How To Recognize A Enlightened Person? By Sadhguru

How To Recognize Enlightened Person? By Sadhguru

In a way, enlightenment means you are an unblemished life, no branding. Once you mistake memory for intelligence, then you’re messed up. there are only two kinds of people, mystics, and mistakes. If you see things just the way they are, people will label you as a mystic. Superscript: How do you recognize an enlightened person? Sadhguru: People even believed this that there will be some signs in the body and they burnt Trishul in their back, on the forehead.“See this just appeared”. In the West, people show their hands, and there are marks here and say “See, I have the crucifixion marks. So Jesus has appeared for me.” In India, sankhu will appear on the shoulder.

How To Recognize Enlightened Person? By Sadhguru

 You just how to burn yourself. You can brand yourself with sankha, chakra, or with crucifixion marks or whatever nonsense you want. In a way, enlightenment means you are an unblemished life, no branding. So you brand yourself and you think you're enlightened, very sorry. So, if there are no brandings, how do you recognize? You cannot recognize it. You cannot recognize it. How does anybody here know I am enlightened or not? I never made a statement on that. So how do they know? They are just assuming? Yes. See, you go and sit in front of your kindergarten teacher. Do you know how knowledgeable he or she is? No, but that he or she knows ABC. You do not know, so you sit. So right now, we're talking XYZ. You do not know, so you sit. So what does it matter whether I got acknowledgment from somewhere else or not? How To Recognize Enlightened Person? By Sadhguru

You want to learn XYZ, you sit here. You don't want, you go. So what is it that is being referred to as enlightenment? You know there's something called as daybreak. It’s a good word. I like that. It's called sunrise. But it's daybreak. The day broke. Is it? No, it's a night that broke. Hello? The day broke or the night broke? Participants: Night broke. Sadhguru: Night broke. Night means what in our perception? Participants: Darkness. Sadhguru: Darkness. If you were an owl, it would be different. In your perception night means uncomfortable because of the dark. Your visual apparatus are not comfortable in darkness. That's why we invented all these lights and this and that. Why? Because we're not comfortable when it's dark because we don't know what is what. In light, we see things clearly. So, if night broke, that means clarity appeared- this is all sunrise is doing to you. You could not see, you were struggling, the sun came up, suddenly confidence - you know where to go, where not to go, what to step into, what not to step into. How To Recognize Enlightened Person? By Sadhguru

How To Recognize Enlightened Person? By Sadhguru

This is all enlightenment is. (Applause) Clarity came where you see everything clearly. You know there was a book that we were publishing, this is a series of talks and something came to give a title. So, I looked at the content a little bit and then I said, “Of mystics and mistakes.” Our English Department said, “Sadhguru, this is too up in the face. Say something little more gentle.” People are always asking me“Sadhguru, say something little more gently.” You're capable of that. Come on! I am capable, but I don't want to say because people will twist it and turn it in so many ways. If you say it in a face slapping way, they don't meddle with it too much. So, I said, “Of mystics and mistakes.” What it means is there are only two kinds of people, mystics, and mistakes. If you see things just the way they are, people will label you as a mystic. How To Recognize Enlightened Person? By Sadhguru

 So what are they? They are a mistake. They’re making mistakes about perceiving basic aspects of life, that’s all. Yes, making mistakes about perception. Why they're making mistakes about perception? Their one hand is always dipped in their memory. This is why we say karma. They are mistaking memory for intelligence, that’s all the mistake they have done. Once you mistake memory for intelligence, ah, then you’re messed up. If you have some memory about something that other people do not know, you look like scholarly. See, people read ten books and they become scholars. People just read one book and they become religious. Just one book, how come it qualifies you to become a representative of God? If you read more than one book, then you cannot be, isn't it? You just have to read only one book. So, this is mistaking memory for intelligence.

 Our entire education system is just this rubbish- mistaking memory for intelligence. If you mistake memory for intelligence,we call you a karma case. You're a karma case because you live out of your memory, not out of your intelligence. If you live out of your intelligence absolutely, without getting your memory and intelligence mixed up, then people say, “Oh, he's enlightened”. Because whatever you bring it in front of him, he’ll look at it and say this is what it is. Simply because he doesn't mix memory and intelligence, that's all. As simple as it seems. Everything that you are right now is memory. You're a man or a woman - this is memory. 

How To Recognize Enlightened Person? By Sadhguru

Not memory means just conscious memory in your head. Your body remembers, isn't it? Hello? Participants: Yes. Sadhguru: If you and I eat the same food, I will not become a woman, you will not become a man. The same food goes into me and becomes a man, the same food goes into you and becomes a woman, this is by memory, isn't it? The body remembers. The body remembers, if you and the monkey eat the same food, he will not become you, you will not become him. Because the body remembers. There are evolutionary memory, genetic memory, elemental memory, atomic memory, conscious, unconscious levels of memory, articulate and inarticulate levels of memory, who you are itself is memory. So if your intelligence has to be free from memory, that means you're free from yourself. That's all. How To Recognize Enlightened Person? By Sadhguru

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Why Do Parents Worry Too Much About Their Children? – Sadhguru 

Why Do Parents Worry Too Much About Their Children?

SG: People are not stressed because they have children. This is not because of marriage. This is not because of B schools This is not because of employment. So Don't blame yourself for anybody's suffering. They are like that. They have practiced. Many have become veterans in suffering. Well, You should have this kind of freedom, is n't it so? Hmm? “Even if I go to hell, I will live well.” Why Do Parents Worry So Much About Their Children?

Questioner: Actually, many parents in India, they have tension about their child about fees, one lakh, two lakh, how should I pay this, then I will become a beggar, what shall I do? (Applause) Sadhguru: Hey, if you were a beggar, there would be no problem with one lakh, two lakh. Questioner: Then they have a peaceful life, the parents say the child, “I have a very beautiful life, enjoyment,” then after that, we think that how do they live happily because they have these many tensions about the child. That what do they do, how will they fall, why will they kick someone and all that? Then how do they still have a peaceful life, the parents? Sadhguru: Yes, yes, go on. 

Questioner: How do they still have enjoyment in their life, by having a tension still for the kid? Sadhguru: Some parents manage to forget about their children for some time. That gives them the respite. You are something! What’s your name? Participant: Sanjana. 

Why Do Parents Worry Too Much About Their Children?

Sadhguru: Sanjana? Sanjana, I want you to observe, not just your parents, just observe people around you. Just watch them carefully, because this’s all I did in my life when I was your age, simply observing everything, not saying a word about it. If you observe people, you will see today we are creating a world, toddler means they have, you know, the napkin problems. Adolescent means they have puberty problems. Middle age means it's a crisis. Old age, terrible! Tell me one stage of life that people are enjoying. Those who are poor, suffering because they are poor. Those who are rich, they are suffering the taxes. Those who are not educated, they are suffering because they are not educated. Put them to school - enormous suffering. That’s what they are saying, “Tension in the B-School.” And, those who are not married, they are suffering. Get them married… See, I did not say anything. 

They are saying it. No children are suffering. Give them children, constant suffering which you're saying. Tell me one damn thing that people are not suffering. Everything! So somebody comes out with the philosophy, “Life is suffering!” So somebody comes up with a solution, “It's all right to suffer. If you suffer a lot here, you will go to another place where everything is fantastic.” You’ve heard of heaven? Not been there, right? No, no heaven! Heaven is the most fantastic place. The reason why we suffer is, where everything is fantastic. But I’m asking, do you have any proof that you are not already in heaven and messing it up? Hello? Sadhguru: Do you have any proof that you are not already in heaven and making a mess out of it? Just go out and see, I think it feels like heaven, the B-School. Maybe you’re making a mess out of it. Look at this planet - from outside the solar system - look at this planet, all the other planets and planet earth, does it look like heaven? 

Participants: Yes. Sadhguru: So, you already landed on heaven and making an absolute mess about it and you want to go to another heaven now because you made a mess out of this. So people are not stressed because they have children. They don’t have children, they are continuously miserable. Children came, little bit spurts of joy, rest is only crying about it. So this is not because of children, this is not because of marriage, this is not because of B-School, this is not because of employment. This is simply because human beings have not figured how to handle themselves. That’s all! Wherever you put them - something. 

You give them what you want, make them the king, they are miserable there also. Yes? Yes or no? People have become risen into a very high position, still miserable or no? So this is not because of any situation, definitely not because of a wonderful girl like you. They haven’t figured because of right from the day they went to kindergarten they were focused, “Who is first, who is second, who is first, who is second.” Hmm? Yesterday, I was at my school. After forty-five years I went back to my school, how does it feel, how do you think? So I went there and I was just telling them about my experience of school. When I went to school… You know these monthly marks card? When these marks card comes, when the teacher gives it to them, some look at it and they are strutting around because they are first, second, whatever. Some are sitting in one corner and crying because they are not happy with the numbers that they got. I never opened the marks card in my entire school. When they gave it to me, I took it and gave it to my father. He blew! I couldn’t understand why just this card? I never opened it and saw it because I thought this is a transaction between my teacher and him. 

I had no interest in it whatsoever, so I never bothered, but I always saw it. My father is a well-educated intelligent man, but it disturbed him. For three days, he blew like a volcano. Looking at this yellow card… They always gave a yellow-colored card. Still like that? So, I was wondering, three days volcanic experience is having. Why I am saying this is, we have set this kind of thing. We can’t change the entire system tomorrow morning, but we can change ourselves, how we handle this, isn’t it? Why is it so important that you have to be ahead of somebody? Why? Why is it so important? Is it not important your life should be beautiful? You must be joyful, you must be wonderful, you must explore your full potential, is this important or you want to be better than somebody sitting next to you? Well, if what’s sitting next to you is a piece of dung, you will be a little better dung Yes? That’s not how life should end up. So, don’t blame yourself for anybody’s suffering. 

They are like that. They’ve practiced. Many have become veterans in suffering because they are acclimatizing themselves to go to hell. Acclimatization process! They want to make themselves such suffering here, even if you drop them in hell, it’ll feel wonderful. You never blame yourself for somebody’s misery, okay? It's all right. What to do? It’s an individual choice. Yes or no? Outside people, what can we do? What can I do to you? I can create an easy situation or a difficult situation for you. Suffering is your business, isn’t it? Yes or no? Suffering is your business Either you can be a challenging child for your parents - I wish you will be - otherwise they will become like bisi bele bath. You must be a little challenging for them. So, whether they enjoy the challenge or suffer the challenge, is left to them. Am I…? It’s okay? 

Because what I see is it doesn’t matter how many arrangements you make, those who suffer, anyway suffer, isn’t it? Just see the western countries as an example. What everybody is dreaming of or what even people don’t dare to dream here, an average American citizen has. You think they are all bursting with joy? All the arrangements have been made. You think they are bursting in joy? No, misery! Forty-two percent of the population over forty-five is on, you know, psychiatric medication. So this is not a joy for sure. Even mental health is not being managed because just making external arrangements is not going to fix this life. It's very, very important that you make inner arrangements that even if they send you to hell, you will go joyfully. 

You’ve heard of Gautama the Buddha? Heard of Buddha? When everybody was talking about going to heaven, Gautama said, “What will I go and do in heaven because you say everything is wonderful there? What will I do there? Let me go to hell. Because you say everybody is suffering there, let me go and do something because anyway I cannot suffer. I made myself like this I cannot suffer, so let me go to hell.” Even now the Buddhist texts talk about Buddha being in the lower world. Well, you should have this kind of freedom, isn’t it so? “Even if I go to hell, I will live well. Nobody has to send me to heaven” (Applause) 

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How to Find Your Inner Peace? | Become Peaceful mind and calm

How to Find Your Inner Peace?

So, people have tried. Excessive eating, intoxicants, excessive indulgence pleasures, with all these things, they have tried to create some kind of peacefulness within themselves. You thought you got there but the next moment you know, you are not there. Any number of times it's deceived you, isn't it? Yes? One Saturday evening, your whole family met; all of you had a wonderful dinner; you thought this is the height of the world.

 Everything is so wonderful, magical. Tomorrow morning you see, poof Not because there is something wrong with your family; It is just that with a limited entity, you are trying to create an unlimited space. It’s not going to work. It's just not going to work. Nothing wrong, it’s just that it does the network. There’re lots of great things in the world which don’t work. I am not interested in them, that's all. You’re interested in great things? Are you interested in great things? Participants: Yes. Sadhguru: Thank you. I’m not interested in great things; I am only interested in things that work. I don’t want to… there’re lots of great things. People claim there are great things but they don't work, they have not worked for anybody. They are great things because somebody says so. 

They are great things because somebody thinks too much of himself and whatever he says or does must be great things but they don’t work. We are looking for something that works. If you are determining the course of your experience right now, a hundred percent, you are beginning to you know, the legs are…bloody legs are aching like crazy but still, Tch, It'sbeginning to work. If you are determining the nature of your experience right now, one-hundred percent, let's say, we assume that, if you are, then would somebody have to tell you, 'please create a pleasant experience.’ Hmm? Will somebody have to tell you? No. So somebody telling you ‘be loving, be blissful’ is all bullshit. Yes or no? Participants: Hmmm. Sadhguru: Because nobody needs to tell you‘be pleasant.’ The problem is you are not able to determine the nature of your experience, isn't it? Yes? 

How to Find Your Inner Peace?

The problem is you are unable to determine the nature of your experience for whatever reasons. If you could determine the nature of your experience, nobody has to tell you 'be blissful, be loving, be happy, be this.' This is all coming from, you know, patchy ideas about life. You see somebody fighting, you say ‘be loving;’you see somebody unhappy, you say blissful; it’s almost insulting. When somebody is in a great state of unhappiness, going and telling ‘be blissful’ is most insulting, isn't it? No? But these are all the great teachings on this planet which have been on for centuries. 

These are all great things that have never worked. So we are only seeing how to determine the nature of your experience. If you take charge of what causes experiencewithin you if you are in charge of that, I’m a hundred percent sure, you will make it very pleasant for yourself. And I am also sure, if you are feeling very pleasant within yourself, you would be naturally pleasant to everybody around yourself. Unfortunately, people have taken it upon themselves, to confuse humanity so badly about their own nature. See it's very simple, it doesn’t take any damn scripture or a Guru to tell you this, it's very simple, whatever the nature of your experience, it’s happening within you. Is it so? Hmm? You don’t need some great yoga or scripture or a Guru or a stone that falls from heaven to tell you this. If the nature of your experience, whatever is the nature of your experience, whether it’s fear, anger, love, hatred, ecstasy, agony - everything is happening from within you, it would be very natural for human beings to look and see how to make it into a most pleasant experience, isn't it? 

If you had not freaked them ‘God loves you from up there,’ if you had not exported love to heaven, a lot of human beings would have been very loving human beings. But now we have exported it out there, you have to import it, for importing it, you need a permit. And there are agents here who don’t give those permits so easily. It's not coming across because all the love has gone to heaven. How to get it now? Here there is a priest standing here with a permit. He won't give it to you. Whether you want to experience blissfulness, whether you want to experience love, whether you want to experience ecstasy – whatever, whatever states of pleasantness human beings have known, have come from within them.

 Is that so? So there is no need to apply for any permit from anywhere, you just have to become willing to explore what this (Referring to oneself) is, to bring this to the most pleasant state. Not because it's a virtue, love is not a virtue, bliss is not a virtue, to be pleasant is not a virtue - it's just that, that is the way you long to be, isn't it? It is not that if you are loving, you'll go to heaven; it is not that if you are ecstatic, you'll go to heaven, it is just that if you are loving and ecstatic, you don’t need damn heaven. People who’ve made a hell out of themselves, want to go to heaven. People who have made heaven out of themselves, where do they want to go?

 Wherever the hell they go, they don’t care. So, it's very, very important - if you want to ensure…is the volume correct? If you want to ensure that the sounds that this one (ref to the audio system) produces are good, The more you know about this whole mechanism, the better sound you produce. Isn't it so? Sometimes by chance it may happen, that’s different but the more you know about, the better. If you are a sound engineer, you produce good sound. So if you are an Inner Engineer, then you make this (Referring to oneself) the way you want. That's all it takes. It doesn’t need any… anything. It is just that because it's in a different direction than the way you are constantly looking through our sense perception, you need help maybe, not necessarily but generally yes. 

You need a certain amount of help but that's all. Grace is just that help, that it creates a conducive atmosphere to slip in. If any machinery has to perform well… you know, people have started using these words everywhere these days, you need lubricants, some lubricant. Try to… whatever the great car you have, try to run it without oil - not ten minutes; it will be ruined, isn't it? It’s the lubricant that is keeping it going. All these great machinery without that little bit of that thin film of lubricant, it's all destroyed in no time. Grace is just that, that little lubricant that things happen smoothly. Now they have started calling it liquid engineering(Few Laughs). Everybody’s started doing it. It's appropriate, it takes liquid engineer. So this takes little engineering. Grace is just a lubricant, without the lubricant if you try to work, the friction - just the friction of life has destroyed too many human beings, isn't it? Yes? Nothing big they did, all they did was simple things. 

They were born which was not their doing, they didn’t do such a big thing, that just happened. They just want to eat well, sleep well, fulfill their basic needs - this is all they want to do. In the process of doing this, how many human beings are broken and bitter and destroyed because of no lubricant, nothing wrong with them. They are trying to work their engines without lubricant. That's all it is. Just see even your cell phone is working because through thin air, they are conducting the sound for you, isn't it? Hmm? We can just disturb that. You know those advertisements, ‘hello, hello, hello, hello…’ you’re seeing those things? Phones become like that because there is a little bit of disturbance. That’s what is happening with this (Referring to oneself) also. This is a far more sophisticated instrument than anything that you have seen. This needs a little bit of attention. If you pay attention, it pays off. 

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How To Handle Wife ? Best Tips By Sadhguru 2020

How To Handle A Wife? Best Tips

- By Sadhguru 

Speaker: This question is from Deepika, “Sadhguru, you said in one of the darshans that you are, you should treat everyone, just as you treat, treat me. Sadhguru you area Karuna avatar. But I have one inhuman, nasty creature in my home. It becomes difficult to see you in him, how to deal with him in this situation?

How To Handle Wife?

Sadhguru: In how many years of marriage does this evolution happen? Or it's devolution. I'm sure he was a wonderful, romantic, wonderful man at one time. I don't know how many years of marriage does he become a nasty creature? And how many roles you have in making a nasty creature? See, especially if he is a nasty creature, especially if it is so, this is your perception. But especially if somebody is a nasty creature in your home or your office or wherever you are. You're seeing something in a certain way is not about them. It's about you. Do you want to keep your eyes, your mind, your heart, your body, pleasant or unpleasant?You make up your mind on that one. Now, if you look at him, I said even that nasty creature, please look at him.It's like me. I'm not telling you that: you have to listen to his teachings or take new practices from him. No, I'm saying, if you have looked at me with a certain sense of reverence, devotion, love, affection, whatever is your emotion. If you have, please see everything with that, because all I'm saying is: you have a body, you have amind you have an emotion, the energy we're talking about your emotion right now. If you hit a certain level of sweetness of emotion, at one point in your life, either because of your love or devotion or compassion or whatever, you hit a certain level of sweetness. 

How To Handle Wife?

This is the highpoint in your life. Now you should not come back from that you must see how to go beyond that. I am saying whatever was the highest or the sweetest or the most wonderful emotion you had to make that the baseline.Why are you coming back again? If you did not know such an emotion, then what would I tell you? Which is the sweetest emotion you had in your life? My child, okay, see, everybody as your child. We’ve told you that at one time. Then I saw you sat here with tears of blissfulness and love coming out of you. Then I said, see everybody as you're looking at me, right now. Because this will make your eyes, your mind, your heart, your body, and your very being sweet and wonderful. This is not about him. Especially if he's being difficult. Then you're being well trained. Even if you go to hell you will do well. Yes. Because nobody has guaranteed you. Have I ever told you, “I will get you a ticket to heaven?” I've been constantly threatening you, “Right here things will happen”. So, you must understand the things about your transformation. The problem with you is because you read, what are those? Well, I don't want to take names anyway. You did, read all those romantic books when you're a teenager and then you imagined all kinds of things. You're not first of all straight with yourself. Your hormones are working up. Suddenly you look at somebody, “Wow! I can't believe she's so beautiful. She's so fantastic. 

He's so handsome.He is so wonderful. Everything he does, ah.” You'rebullshitting yourself. No, no. Whatever they do, you make you beautiful. Now even if they're doing nasty things, you're still wonderful. This is different. You know, they're doing nasty things, and you're still wonderful. This is fantastic. They are doing nasty things, but you think they're doing beautiful things. This is stupid nonsense. I’ll tell you, somebody, who was serving in the Indian Army told me this story because we went through a similar situation somewhere else. So at that time, he was narrating this. They were posted in the north-eastern region where there's a certain amount of elephant population. So he is a battalion leader, he's heading about a group of eighteen to twenty people, I think they are marching in the forests and they see a huge tusker, everybody backs off all of them have weapons, okay, powerful weapons. 

This is an anti-insurgency group that means they are fully armed and equipped. They can shoot down a tusker from hundred meters, two-hundred meters, whatever they want. But they all back off because that'snot the reason why they are there. But he was telling me this because this some situation happened like this with one South Indian person, so suddenly there was one Tamil man in the thing who was a sergeant, Havildar, he put his weapons down and he said, “Ganapathy has come. Ganesha, Ganesha!” and he started chanting a mantra. He knew some Ganapathymantra, he started chanting, he ran in front and he went close to the elephant just fifty feet away and went down on his knees and started loudly saying the chant, the elephant looked at him, “Who is this bloody fool?” You know, calling him all kinds of names that he doesn't like. And these people were watching, this is some kind of a miracle happening. The elephant is just standing there and this guy's on his knees chanting, the elephant moved so quickly and within less than two seconds, or within probably five seconds, he was upon him, he just crushed him, turned back and went.

 These people were just aghast and they just watching him being crushed. Then some people pulled out the weapons when the person whom I knew, was in charge of it he calmed them down because it's already dead. The man is dead in one shot. Why I'm saying this to you: elephant will not do, the wild elephant is not going to do pleasant things to you because you call him a god. You call him Ganapathyand try to worship him. He's not going to do, he will do what he has to do. Similarly, the creature in your house. He will do what he has to do.Whatever is his characteristic. It is just about you.I'm talking. You're always thinking of life as a relationship. No, no, I want you to understand, before you were born, or even when you were being born you did not have a relationship even with your mother. This is going to be very unpopular. People are going to pick one, but please look at it. You don't have a relationship. You just have an existence. The relationship happened because of your needs, you saw her as your food, you went for her you saw her as the basis of your survival. You recognized that quickly, you know, the moment a child is born, hand her over to another man or another woman, and let them take care of all the child's needs, a child will immediately go to them. 

This whole idea that you think it's coming to you because you're the mother and you delivered,  no, it is because of the needs you form relationships. Otherwise, there's just existence. This existence can either become conscious and live in a phenomenal presence and become available to it. Or just do or go on doing the circus. Initially, your mother was everything.She was the most fantastic creature and then you grew up, you became an adolescent and you saw a boy, he was the most fantastic man, in the world, then your mother came in between suddenly you started hating her. Hello. Then the man came, he was most beautiful. Then he became a nasty creature, or so you thought. Now you think he's the worst human being, this goes on. I want you to understand you' remaking up both beauty and nasty. I am not asking you to make up. I am not asking you to think whatever this person is doing is fantastic. That's a stupid way to exist. It's just that if you see everything, whatever is the peak experience you had, make that the baseline, this is growth. You played the snake and the ladder game, choosing, choosing, check, You played that game?Snake and the ladder game. So when you play this game, your intent is once you climb a ladder, you don't want to come back.You don't want to hit a snake. You want to find another ladder, another ladder goes up, that's a natural expression of life. So once you know a certain level of sweetness, within you, don't bring it down. 

That should be the basis. The next thing should be better and better. So when I said, every, right now you were sitting here with tears of ecstasy and love like this with me, then I said, “Let this be the basis. Don't go down from this. See everything like this.” At least let this much happen. If this is continuously happening, constantly happening, then of course you will hit another ladder. Just a little bit of time. Don't come down.That's all I said. And please don't describe him as a nasty creature, poor man. This happened, I think I told you, maybe one of these days only I told you, I don't remember but let me repeat this, Shankaran Pillai thought his wife is having an affair, hired a detective. I'm saying it loudly because just to remind you, said, “I want proof against her”. So the detective just waited outside the house, then she left the house. 

He followed her. Then she went to, parked near a park, went inside. A man was sitting on the bench. The moment he saw her, he came running, she went running, they hugged each other held hands and sat down on the bench and chatting away joyfully, laughing. He took the whole video and within a few hours, he came to ShankaranPillai in his office and said, “I got all the proof that you wanted, just in one day. I did my job. I have the proof, here watch the video”. Shankaran Pillai started watching the video and said “No, I can't believe this. No, no, this can't be, I can't believe this. No, I can't believe this.” He said, “What you Can't believe? It's a video. It's not doctored. It's just a video that I took just now.” He said, “That's not the point fool, I can't believe she's so much fun.” So after fifteen days are over, when the mangoes away somewhere, then you will see how much fun he was. Don't do this to yourself. 

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How Do We Handle / Face Hard Times in Life? Sadhguru Answers

How Do We Handle / Face Hard Times in Life? 

When you will learn -  "how to handle my thought, how to handle my emotion." We will give you tools on how to figure this machine out...whatever the issue we will do out best, but this should not be an issue.

How Do We Handle / Face Hard Times in Life?

Questioner:  In life, there are many phrases where we feel that we are depressed, we are lonely, and when everybody is against us, and there's no one to, you know, guide us or talk about it. So at that moment, how should we handle it, or how should we deal with it?

Sadhguru: See, this is an unfortunate condition that a whole lot of human beings are in – in their experience, in their personal experience, life is like, “me versus the universe”. Competing with the universe is a stupid thing to do. That's not a competition you must get into. Hello? I versus the universe is a bad competition to get into. Would you also agree with me?So this is why yoga. Yoga does not mean twisting and turning your body. The word yoga means union. Right now, it's me versus the universe – this is just your psychological condition.This is not the reality. Even when you feel utterly lonely, are you still breathing? So you’re transacting with the world, isn't it? Yes? You only can't get along with the people around you. But the atmosphere is okay with you. Food is okay if it tastes good. Water is okay. You have a transaction with the world, isn't it?

How Do We Handle / Face Hard Times in Life?

 Your existence is constantly in engagement with the universe, but your mind becomes against the universe. If you create a psychological condition that you are against or you're in competition with the universe or the cosmos, obviously you will feel crushed for small things. Little things will crush you. When I say little things – maybe you failed your examination, maybe you got thrown out of the university, maybe you got fired from a job, maybe somebody ditched you, maybe something else like this happened. These are all small things between life and death. You don't agree with me? Because you came here with nothing, isn't it? When you die, there is no container service for you. You die with nothing. Despite that, most people have turned their homes into warehouses. Most people are carrying such a huge suitcase on their heads as if they're carrying the whole universe on their heads. This is their psychological condition. Your thought and emotion are what you're talking about. Right? When are you going to figure out how to handle your thought and emotion? Not hers, not hers, not his, yours. When are you going to learn how to handle my thought and my emotion? At the end of your life? the only problem, really, with life is just this – most human beings have taken themselves too seriously. They do not understand. You've seen on the computer screen these pop-ups? You are a pop-up on this planet. You pop-up for two seconds and pop-out. No, no, you must see, a countless number of people like you and me have walked this planet, they were also big people.

 Where are they? All topsoil? Topsoil or no? Unless somebody, your friends decided to bury you real deep, fearing that you may raise from the dead. You know, there have been such instances. Or maybe you're planning to go to heaven. Hello? Anybody who talks about a place other than this place as a better place than this – this is a crime against humanity. My fundamental work is to destroy all heavens so that people will learn to live well here. All these idiots who made a hell out of themselves, they want to go to heaven. They made a mess out of this place, and then they want to go to heaven. I'm asking you, do you have any proof? Do you have any proof that you are not already in heaven and messing it up? Do you have any proof? You're already in heaven, making a mess out of it. Yes? Simply because you are not even learning how to handle your basic faculties of thought and emotion.Isn’t it? Your only justification is “Everybody is like this, only” – that's how it is in a madhouse. That is how it is in a madhouse, only a doctor looks crazy. So when are you going to handle it? Slowly, at the age of sixty? I’m asking. When will you learn how to handle my thought, how to handle my emotion, how to handle my body, how to handle my chemistry – when are you going to figure this, at the end of your life? Because this culture has grown – when to do spirituality means when you're seventy, when you're no good for anything else. No. At the earliest possible time, whatever is most profound about you, not about heavens, about this life, everything that you need to know you must know soonest, isn't it? Only then you'll live a sensible life.You okay, if we tell you a joke, you don' t get offended? Because this is the most serious crowd I've ever seen in the last few years. 

This happened – Shankaran Pillai, when he was in Paris, was married to a French woman. One day, it was their anniversary – the first anniversary. So she invited a bunch of friends, and she wanted to cook something fresh,  everything fresh. So from morning, she was driving him to this market, that market. He got these fresh vegetables, fresh meat, fresh chicken, this, that, everything. Then in the evening, she said – because the French has this, you know, snail appetizer – she said, “Go to the beach and get some snails, fresh. And I will make some appetizer for all the friends who are coming.” So Shankaran Pillai went to the beach and he was picking up all the snails and putting in a bucket. Then he met an old friend, an Indian guy, they hit it off and they were talking about their old times, he just forgot that he's married. You know, when you meet old friends it happens. And both of them went to a bar and they had a few drinks, and he just forgot. Then he realized, then the snails were just climbing out, and take one snail fell out of the bucket. He realized, “Oh my god, I'm supposed to take the snails. My wife, French wife, she's waiting.” So he said, “I need to go.” And he went. By then it was already very late. 

He went, he knew it's not going to be pleasant. So he came near the house and spilled all the snails on the ground, threw away the bucket, and went and knocked on the door. The French fury came. He turned back and said, “Come on, you guys. We're almost there. Come on. Let's go!” So when are you going to pick your snails and put them in the bucket and fix them? Hmm? Your problems, you must fix them, isn’t it? These are not problems, I want you to understand you are not suffering your life, you're only suffering two fantastic faculties. It's a privilege of being human that we have these two fantastic faculties.One is we have a vivid sense of memory. This is because of this memory our life is so rich unlike any other creature and we have a fantastic sense of imagination. 

Now, this is what you're suffering, what happened ten years ago you can still suffer, why? Are you suffering life or memory? Hello? Memory! What may happen the day after tomorrow you're already suffering. Are you suffering life or imagination? Participants: Imagination. Sadhguru: Two most fantastic faculties you have you are suffering. So what are you asking for? You want to become once again an earthworm. An earthworm is a very Eco-friendly creature, I have nothing against it. But it took millions of years of evolution to get you this size of the brain and now you're suffering it. If we take away half your brain, of course, you will sit there without any anxiety without any suffering, peacefully. What we need is we need to remove your brain because you're suffering your intelligence, yes or no? Because we gave you a very complex machine, you have not bothered to read even the user's manual, you want to just blunder around. 

No? Young people, it's time you figure out a few things about you, if you don't know-how, we will give you tools how to figure this machine out because in your life many issues will come, more issues come up in your life means you're living a more active life. Nothing came up means you're not living. Yes, lots of issues every day. I have the maximum number of trouble going on in my life daily because of so much activity around the world, global level of activity only with volunteers, okay? Volunteers mean nobody is qualified for the job and you can't fire them for inefficiency and they love you, what to do? So, this one thing you must fix that is in your life, you are not the issue, okay? Whatever the issue, we’ll do our best but this should not be the issue. 

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Best 7 Tips on How to be your child's best friend and become a responsible/good parent | Parenting tips | By Sadhguru

Best 7 Tips on How to be your child's best friend |Parenting tips 

They tell me this word parenting or parent came into circulation only somewhere around maybe two hundred years ago. And just about at that time, one John Wilmot, the Earl of Rochester, said something significant. He said, “Before I got married, I had six wonderful theories about how to parent. But now, I have six children and all theories are gone”.

 Unfortunately, somewhere, people have been made to believe that children are all born improper and we have to make them proper. No. So what should I do, parenting? I want you to look back and see when you were five, six years of age, what would be the best kind of parents to have? If you look back, you would know very clearly. If you are a parent, the important thing is, please don’t stand on a big pedestal.

Best 7 Tips on How to be your child's best friend |Parenting tips 

 The only qualification you have is you just came here a few years early. That’s the only mistake you’ve done. Yes. When you say, “I wish I was young,” what it means is, “I made the mistake of coming too early.” So this is the only qualification adults have, that they came here a few years earlier than the younger people. This doesn’t qualify you to advise about everything in the universe. It doesn’t. If you admit your ignorance with the youth, and especially with little children, they will become your close friends, otherwise, they look up to you because they have to. There is a hierarchy business, and of course, everybody hates that hierarchy, because looking up, neck hurts, you know. Nobody likes it. Because in trying to place yourself above, you’re losing the possibility of being a good friend. If you’re not a good friend, they are not seeking your advice, they have…they are not just in the neighborhood, now globally they seek answers, okay? You don’t know where their friend is, their friend is in Timbuktu right now, not in the neighborhood. A relationship is only possible when you’re not on the pulpit, you’re down on the ground, like everybody else, on the same two feet. 

Then only it’s possible, then only there is a friendship. When there is a friendship, there is room for correction. When there is no friendship, you can say what you want, nobody is going to listen anyway. And if you go on telling advice after advice, they will just do the reverse, just to spite you. A whole lot of children do things just because it freaks the parents. Yes or no? They’re doing it just to freak the parents, they… they just enjoy it, because this advice and advice and advice is sickening. Nobody likes advice. But if there was a bond of friendship, naturally they would listen. That’s what one should earn. 

The parents and teachers should earn the friendship of the new generation rather than thinking, just because a few years early you came, you know the universe. There’s no such thing. 

#1 So, just stop advising them,

 just be friends with them, play with them, go to the cinema with them, listen to their kind of rap music, dance with them you will see they will be fond of you, there will be a relationship, once there’s a relationship, you can do something, you can influence them. The first and foremost thing that we need to understand is, a child means it is not a personalized project. We are manufacturing the next generation of people.

Those who decide to have children must have dedicated time for the child, not fitting in here… one ten minutes here, ten minutes there. You must have full-fledged dedicated time because it is about making the next generation better than who we are.There is nothing special to be done. You don’t have to buy a single toy. You just haveto spend time, you just have to expose them to nature, you just have to expose them to various forms of creation. 

#2 But just to get rid of the child, you bought-him an iPad when he’s five. See, you buy him an iPad when he’s four or five, don’t think it's out of your love. You’re being strategic, you want to get rid of him.Get rid of him means he opens up something and something, something, something is happening on the iPad endlessly, so you can go about your business the way you want. I don’t think itis necessary for such people to have children. Unless you’re willing to have dedicated time,you should not do this crime, not necessary. 

But once you have, you must have dedicated time.And first of all, you must fix yourself. You must become that kind of a person, the child will look up to and love to be with. Then, even time can be adjusted. If they’re really looking up to you, five minutes is worth five days. Five minutes of contact is like five days. Nothing to teach, what’s there to teach? What is there to teach? What do you know about life that the child doesn’t know, I’m asking? Survival tricks, don’t teach them too early.This is a serious problem. These days, I think it's little less than what it used to be before. Three-year-old child, they’re asking, “What do you want to become” ? “I want to become pilot. I want to become a commando.” These days, everybody wan… all the boys want to be commando because that’s the game they’re playing because I see in these games, phewmeans somebody’s head falls off. They may become Jihadi Johns because right from childhood, they’re taking off people’s heads.

 So, what do you... what do you want to expose your children to is something that every parent needs to think about because it is exposure is not moral teaching which is going to stick. It is the exposure that the child is exposed to,which is really going to stick right through their life. You must expose them to all the positive, wonderful things. Positive things do not mean right versus wrong. Simply life, the way it is. I think if people want to have children this may sound extreme but I would say at least for two months in a year, those who have children should withdraw into a natural space, not live in their city burrows or those bird nests of apartments. They must go away at least for two months. It's alright even if you have to live in a tent somewhere, but they must live in nature, the children very, very, very important if you want to have your children physically, mentally healthy and balanced, which is the most important thing.

 #3 Parents think all the things that they could not do, they must achieve through their children. So they should have bred racehorses (Laughter).They are not an extension of your ambitions. They are not and they need not be. So these is because people think they own their children. No, they're not your property. I think this days they're telling you, older generation hesitated to say this, this generation by the time they're ten they're telling you, “You got no business to tell me what to do”. So doesit mean to say you don't say anything to them? No, it's your business to see, because ifyou don't guide them, somebody else will on the street or somebody will do it long distance on the internet,all kinds of creatures are out there, all right? 

#4 So yes, to protect them, to nourish them,to allow them to explore their possibilities, it is your business to do that as a parent.But parent's concern may be “what will happen, what will happen, what will happen? Tell me when you go through fear, is it fantastic? Hello? It’s one of the most terrible emotions you can go through. Why are we thinking that we should be fearful our future, not only of your future, of anything that you do and you are even god-fearing,all right. Fearful about everything, what is the point? There is no such thing. There is no such thing that this generation should be an extension of the previous generation, this generation should do something that the previous generation could not imagine.

 #5 That is when there is a purpose to this generation, isn't it? Otherwise, what's the point if you’re going to do the same things? if you want your children to consider the suggestions that you're making, don’t try to discipline them. If it works, if you try to discipline them and it works, unfortunately it means that you have dumb children. If they're smart, it just won't work… really. Isn't it so?You don’t like this? If they're just dumb, helpless children it'll work; otherwise with nag disciplining it won't work. Yes, here and there maybe you put your foot down a little bit, but that right also you get only because you built a relationship. 

You built a very close friendship relationship,so somewhere you can use your privilege of being older than them and put your foot down on a few things. But you can't go about disciplining them,you must drop that idea from your mind because it won't work. If they don’t like your discipline,it's just a few months away that they don’t like you. If a few years away they hate your discipline, then you must know that much time away they’ll also hate you, there's no question about it, isn't it? So, don’t get yourself into that situation. The most important thing is to provide him an atmosphere of… which is joyful, loving, and inspiring, inspiring him to stand up and find his full potential.If this atmosphere is provided, you don’t really have to worry about discipline. Discipline will happen by itself. Discipline does not mean control. 

#6 Discipline means that you are focused on knowing. the word discipline in English means a learning or to learn. So, when you say ‘I'm disciplined’ that means you're always willing to learn, that you're not stuck in some mode. So, discipline is not just doing something some way you're willing to learn which way to do everything better. So, if you're constantly striving how to do everything better you're disciplined. You're just doing something in a particular way that’s not discipline. If you bring yogic practices into a child's life there's no way they cannot be disciplined; discipline will happen to them. This is the mistake, or this is the fundamental flaw in the education systems of the day, that we think we need to prepare people for something.No, we need to prepare people for nothing. We just have to make people flexible and sharpen their intelligence, sharpen their perception; whatever is needed, do that. 

Only thing is, you have to make human intelligence in such a way that it’s flexible, and it’ll quick… quick…quickly grasp what is around. Perception is sharpened, intelligence is sharpened,but you don’t become a concrete block that, “I'm an engineer,” “I'm a doctor,” “I'm ‘this’,”“I'm ‘that’,” you become a concrete block, you can’t change yourself. Does it mean to say no subject needs any training? Yes, it will need. Many subjects need expertise which needs acertain level of application and training. I'm not questioning that, but you don have to do it early on. Right now, from the age of three, four they are telling, “I’m going to become IT engineer” “I'm going to become a startup”, now it's all startup or a doctor, engineer… 

#7 Everything was doctor at one time, then it became little engineer, now computer, now startup. How many starts up… startups are nonstarters in the country? Too many, unfortunately, because you don’t need a startup culture, engineering culture, something like this. What you need is that you’re a solution-seeking generation. Let your children do something that you could not dream of. If you have achieved a certain level of success, you’ve taken care of bread for your children. So let them live a life, where they don have to think about their bread. That is, they don’t live for their survival, they live to create something that is wonderful for himself and everybody else. Just yesterday somebody was asking me in some meeting that I was in, “Sadhguru, I have a fourteen-year-old boy…The fourteen-year-old boy is trouble, I know.” Because I was a fourteen-year-old boy at one time I was.I know he’s trouble. The lady was in tears, “I have a fourteen-year-old boy...”“I understand...” I said, “Don’t say anything more, I understand. Fourteen-year-old boy”. So the thing is, when you had a child when it was…when it was a little infant, mu, mu, mu, mu, mu, mu, mu, you loved it because you could twist it and turn it and play with it whichever way you want. Yes? Then it became a three-year-old, it was crawling all over the place. 

You also crawled with the baby, you played with the baby, you tried to speak like them, cuckoopoobo, peekaboo, all that everything was nice. Then he stood up, now he's become a fourteen-year-old boy. What that means is he's trying to be his own. He wants to be a man, he’s in a hurry! But you still want to do mu, mu, mu, to him. When you … when you crawled with him when he was two, three years old, he also enjoyed it, but now he wants to swing. You should also swing with him. But you still want to crawl, you still want to do mu, mu, mu, it doesn't work. The best thing, if you want to be of some value to your children, whether they are your own biological children or they're studying with you, the most important thing is that when they see you, they must say,“Wow, I want to be like this!” Yes? You must become that kind of person, you don't have to say a thing, you become that kind of person, everybody wants to be like you. 

You must learn to dance like them, you must like tosing like them, you learn to speak like them, then they say “Wow, this is how I want to be.” Once they want to be like you, there is no issue making it happen. Yes? Very simple. So you must make them fall in love with you, not demand something, you must make them fall in love with you. This is what you need to do. If somebody has to fall in love with you, what you… what you should do? You must shine a bit. Hello? Yes or no? You must shine a little bit. 

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